I was called intimidating yesterday. I don’t even know what that means! The person who had told me I was went on to say that sometimes that’s why people didn’t approach me…because I was too intimidating.
Which is funny because most of the time I’m the one with the inferiority complex, not the other way around. I find it hard to make friends with people who are better looking or more successful or passionate. Am I just not friendly? Do I scowl? Is my tone of voice harsh? Is that why I’m still single? I know I’m introverted but when I am in public or meeting new people I try to be out-going and fun, hoping that they will like me.
I was also called high-maintenance. Boom, double whammy! Too hot to handle, folks! Can’t touch this, na, na, nana!
Ok, be serious for a sec. This actually kind of hurt. Usually when you talk about someone who is intimidating, you picture someone dark and scary and unfriendly. And when someone is high-maintenance, they are annoying and needy.
Does that mean I am scary, unfriendly, annoying and needy? I don’t know, I do have friends (though not as many as other people). I am sweet, when I want something. And I don’t think I’m scary. In fact, I’m down-right hilarious and vibrant!
I came to the conclusion that if you are too scared to talk to me because of a first impression, then I don’t want to be friends with you anyway. Also, I shouldn’t be so scared to talk to those people I think are intimidating or high-maintenance.